I'm going to do a little bit of ranting, so bare with me here. I have two wonderful, beautiful, caring, smart daughters. They have fun with each other, they do fun things together, they have shared some great experiences and some horrible experiences in their lives. They are great friends to each other and try really hard to let others into their circle. They have had some great friends. But since moving here they haven't been able to make any friends that they could hang out with. They live by the standards of the church, they have had great achievements with their talents, they are GOOD girls. Yet, each time they try to include other kids in their activities, ie. movies, game nights, they get stood up, shot down or just plain left out.
Aimee is the Young Single Adult Rep. for our ward and she has made plans for activities for the singles in our small ward. Granted there aren't that many singles, but they should be supporting each other and bonding together. Several activities Aimee has planned there has been NO ONE show up. That makes her feel like a failure, and wonder what she is doing wrong. Did she make someone mad, not include someone in something? Come on it's not that hard to participate.
Wendy is always willing to help ANYONE out with ANYTHING. She is so fun and loving to everyone she meets and wants to have friends, but for some reason she and Aimee both are unable to make friends with those LDS kids.
What brought this on was that some of the singles went to Rome for a couple of days with a couple of singles that were visiting a family in the ward and Aimee and Wendy weren't even asked if they would like to go!! Aimee and Wendy are both so hurt. They have tried to be friends with the three from the ward that went and have tried to include them in activites, but they get kicked in the teeth. They so feel like outsiders here, never included in anything outside of their callings. They are so frustrated!!
What do we do as parents? Especially when we are treated the same way by others in the ward. I know I'm just complaining and probably only seeing the negative stuff, but it has happened in several wards we have lived in. We aren't a military family, but we have moved quite a bit in our 22 year marriage. There have been four or five wards where we have felt at home, but since Aimee and Wendy have become teenagers we have been out in left field and not felt a part of any ward.